Be good to yourself

A wonderful recent reminder from Val Boyco.

(NB: By the time you read this, I will be away for three days with my son enjoying the Wintry delights of Bend, Or and Mount Bachelor.)

I spoke yesterday about the many writers who follow this place and, in turn, are followed by me. Val Boyco is one such example.  Val writes the blog Find Your Middle Ground and it is with her permission that I republish a recent post of hers.


Inspiration – Self Observation

Posted on February 24, 2015 by Val Boyko

A reminder for all of us who are working on self observation and dealing with our inner critic.

Be gentle with yourself on this part of the journey.


Self-Observation Without Judgment

Release the harsh and pointed inner voice.

It’s just a throwback to the past,
and holds no truth about this moment.

Let go of self-judgment, the old,
learned ways of beating yourself up
for each imagined inadequacy.

Allow the dialogue within the mind
to grow friendlier, and quiet.

Shift out of inner criticism and life
suddenly looks very different.

I can say this only because I make
the choice a hundred times a day to release the voice that refuses to
acknowledge the real me.

What’s needed here isn’t more prodding toward perfection, but
intimacy – seeing clearly, and embracing what I see.

Love, not judgment, sows the
seeds of tranquility and change.

Danna Faulds from “One Soul”

The last line will be with me all day 🙂


 Beautiful words!

11 thoughts on “Be good to yourself

      1. That’s a new one. How was the food? I bet fabulous. All the restaurants are in competition with each other, prices and quality!


      2. There are so many! If you like health food such as falafals or tempeh , Kebaba’s is great (on the west side). If you like grilled food Parrilla Grill is also good (West side). Pizza Mondo is fab! And there is a wonderful Italian restaurant in Old town, Pastini Pastaria. Well I liked it very much but my daughter wasn’t that fond of it. She said okay, not great. Her favorite place is Parrilla Grill. There are so so many great places


  1. Beautiful words indeed.. and with extra added meaning for me right now, especially the bit about the self criticism.. I hope you and your Son have a fantastic trip Paul
    Blessings sent.


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