An article on loneliness

A surprising find!

I shall be 80 in November and I find myself thinking about death more often than I did a few years ago. As an example of how my mind has changed, yesterday I was contemplating renewing my subscription to the Free Inquiry magazine and wondering if I should renew it for two or three years? In other words will I still be alive in three years time? Silly but it is the truth. And that is not taking into account that I go to the Club Northwest two days a week and try and bike ride another two or three times a week.

Then let us not get into the topic of whether I will die before Jean or the reverse. That is an enormous subject and, thank goodness, where we live in Oregon one has the choice to die: “Two states, Oregon and Washington, currently have statutes providing a procedure for a terminally ill patient to request medication to end his or her life. These laws are sometimes referred to as “death with dignity” or “physician-assisted suicide” laws.

All of which is an introduction to a recent article published in The Conversation that I republish below:

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Loneliness can kill, and new research shows middle-aged Americans are particularly vulnerable

The desire to belong is a fundamental human need. Oliver Rossi/Stone via Getty Images

Frank J. Infurna, Arizona State University

Middle-aged Americans are lonelier than their European counterparts. That’s the key finding of my team’s recent study, published in American Psychologist.

Our study identified a trend that has been evolving for multiple generations, and affects both baby boomers and Gen Xers. Middle-aged adults in England and Mediterranean Europe are not that far behind the U.S. In contrast, middle-aged adults in continental and Nordic Europe reported the lowest levels of loneliness and stability over time.

We used survey data drawn from over 53,000 middle-aged adults from the U.S. and 13 European nations from 2002 to 2020. We tracked their reported changes in loneliness every two years across the midlife years of 45 to 65. This span provided us data from the so-called silent generation of people born between 1937 and 1945; baby boomers, born between 1946 and 1964; and members of Generation X, born between 1965 and 1974.

Our study makes clear that middle-aged Americans today are experiencing more loneliness than their peers in European nations. This coincides with existing evidence that mortality rates are rising for working-age adults in the U.S.

We focused on middle-aged adults for several reasons. Middle-aged adults form the backbone of society by constituting a majority of the workforce. But they also face increasing challenges today, notably greater demands for support from both their aging parents and their children.

Following the Great Recession from late 2007 to 2009, middle-aged adults in the U.S. reported poorer mental and physical health compared to same-aged peers in the 1990s. Compared to several European nations, U.S. middle-aged adults currently report more depressive symptoms and higher rates of chronic illness, pain and disability.

Why it matters

The desire to belong is an innate and fundamental need. When this is lacking, it can have downstream consequences.

Loneliness is bad for your health. Researchers have found that loneliness is as dangerous as smoking. Loneliness increases one’s vulnerability to sickness, depression, chronic illness and premature death.

Loneliness is considered a global public health issue. The U.S. surgeon general released an advisory report in 2023 documenting an epidemic of loneliness and a pressing need to increase social connection. Other nations, such as the U.K. and Japan, have appointed ministers of loneliness to ensure relationships and loneliness are considered in policymaking.

You can be lonely even when surrounded by people.

What still isn’t known

Why are middle-aged Americans exceptional when it comes to loneliness and poorer overall mental and physical health?

We did not directly test this in our study, but in the future we hope to zero in on the factors driving these trends. We think that the loneliness Americans are reporting compared to peer nations comes down to limited social safety nets and to cultural norms that prioritize individualism over community.

Individualization carries psychological costs, such as reductions in social connections and support structures, which are correlates of loneliness. Relative to the other nations in our study, Americans have a higher tendency to relocate, which is associated with weak social and community ties.

One of the reasons why we chose countries from across Europe is that they differ dramatically from the U.S. when it comes to social and economic opportunities and social safety nets. Social and economic inequalities likely increase one’s loneliness through undermining one’s ability to meet basic needs. Generous family and work policies likely lessen midlife loneliness through reducing financial pressures and work-family conflict, as well as addressing health and gender inequities.

Our findings on loneliness in conjunction with previous studies on life expectancy, health, well-being and cognition suggest that being middle-aged in America is a risk factor for poor mental and physical health outcomes.

The Research Brief is a short take on interesting academic work.

Frank J. Infurna, Associate Professor of Psychology, Arizona State University

This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.

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And on yesterday afternoon, the Sunday, I went for a bike ride of 22 miles. I loved the ride especially as I listened to music all the way; I have a portable speaker that clips near the front handlebars and plays tracks from my iPhone.

Then there was an article in March from the University of Bristol: “Happiness can be learnt, but we have to work at it – study finds.

It reads:

Press release issued: 11 March 2024

We can learn to be happy, but only get lasting benefits if we keep practising, a first-of-its-kind study has revealed.

The team behind the University of Bristol’s ‘Science of Happiness’ course had already discovered that teaching students the latest scientific studies on happiness created a marked improvement in their wellbeing.

But their latest study found that these wellbeing boosts are short-lived unless the evidence-informed habits learnt on the course – such as gratitude, exercise, meditation or journaling – are kept up over the long-term.

Senior author Professor Bruce Hood said: “It’s like going to the gym – we can’t expect to do one class and be fit forever. Just as with physical health, we have to continuously work on our mental health, otherwise the improvements are temporary.”

Launched in 2018, the University of Bristol’s Science of Happiness course was the first of its kind in the UK. It involves no exams or coursework, and teaches students what the latest peer-reviewed studies in psychology and neuroscience say really makes us happy.

Students who took the course reported a 10 to 15% improvement in wellbeing. But only those who continued implementing the course learnings maintained that improved wellbeing when they were surveyed again two years on.

Published in the journal Higher Education, it is the first to track wellbeing of students on a happiness course long after they have left the course.

Professor Hood said: “This study shows that just doing a course – be that at the gym, a meditation retreat or on an evidence-based happiness course like ours – is just the start: you must commit to using what you learn on a regular basis.

“Much of what we teach revolves around positive psychology interventions that divert your attention away from yourself, by helping others, being with friends, gratitude or meditating.

“This is the opposite of the current ‘selfcare’ doctrine, but countless studies have shown that getting out of our own heads helps gets us away from negative ruminations which can be the basis of so many mental health problems.”

Professor Hood has distilled the Science of Happiness course into a new book, out on March 10. ‘The Science of Happiness: Seven Lessons for Living Well’ reveals an evidence-informed roadmap to better wellbeing.

The other paper authors are fellow University of Bristol academics Catherine Hobbs and Sarah Jelbert, and Laurie R Santos, a Yale academic whose course inspired Bristol’s Science of Happiness course.

Paper

Long‑term analysis of a psychoeducational course on university students’ mental well‑being‘ by Catherine Hobbs, Sarah Jelbert, Laurie R. Santos and Bruce Hood in Higher Education

Further information
  • Surprising take aways from the Science of Happiness course include:
    • Talking to strangers makes us happier, despite a majority of us shying away from such encounters.
    • Social media is not bad for everyone, but it can be bad for those who focus on their reputation.
    • Loneliness impacts on our health by impairing our immune systems.
    • Optimism increases life expectancy.
    • Giving gifts to others activates the reward centres in our brain – often providing more of a happiness boost than spending money on oneself.
    • Sleep deprivation impacts on how well we are liked by others.
    • Walking in nature deactivates part of the brain related to negative ruminations, which are associated with depression.
    • Kindness and happiness are correlated.

I sincerely hope you find today’s post, a long post, of interest.

15 thoughts on “An article on loneliness

  1. What a wonderful post!! I enjoyed both of these articles very much. As far as loneliness for boomers, I can say one of the most prevalent causes of loneliness at our age is death. In the last 3 years I lost all my good local friends to death or moving away (to a retirement home). And at church I lost them to illness (stroke, Alzheimer’s). Fortunately I joined a new church in January and have made many new friends there. As you age you truly do have to get out and continue your make new friends. Also, did the article mention pets? No way you can be lonely with a dog or cat. lol!! I enjoyed the happiness article too. I have found my strong faith keeps my happiness level higher than it ordinarily would be in stressful situations. But, yes, the Great Recession was devastating for many of us. I lost all my publishers during that period. Not to mention several bookstore chains like Waldenbooks went bankrupt. Since then most chain bookstores and magazine racks have disappeared. The Great Recession, Amazon, and ebook changed the publishing landscape considerably. But the good thing about Boomers is we are very hard workers. We just rebuilt in creative ways. Still that is also stressful. Thank goodness for my strong faith!! And thank YOU for such a wonderful post, dear friend!! 🩷

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    1. Your response is lovely. (And I have just edited the article to allow that YouTube video to be shown.) We agree with you, of course we would, that pets are the perfect solution to loneliness. However I cannot imagine what I would do if Jeannie died first, I do not even want to try imagining that. In a sense I envy you your faith but I have been a non-believer all my life so there is a gap between us. Again, thank you for your reply. It makes my blogging a joy!

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      1. I’m glad you enjoy my comments. Thank you!! You are always so kind. It was a very thought-provoking post. Thank YOU for posting it!! 🩷

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  2. Paul, thank you for this timely post. Approaching age 85, I have the same questions as you. And I thankfully do and did all the tips at the end of the article. Now, I need to ask my two vulnerable middle aged sons, how lonely are you? Keep up your connections with all of us, and your Oregon peaceful woods & dog loving life style. Thinking into what happens in the future, can ruin what you have today. 📚🎶 Christine

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    1. Christine, I have no answers, generally, but am grateful, enormously grateful, for meeting Jean in December, 2007. Despite Jean being my fourth wife, she is the first woman I have truly loved (and I feel as though all my readers already know that) and never a day goes by without Jean and me being in a loving hug together.
      The woods here are superb and the landscape is something I admire more than once a day.
      However, I think about the future more than I should and I do not know how to stop that.
      But well done on you following those tips! Well done, indeed!

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  3. I know what you mean about aging and thinking about death. I’ve been told that we are not alone and that faith helps. Still this is a difficult time. Thank you for mentioning this topic as a lot of us deal with it too. Take care.

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  4. I am ten years behind you Paul… Yet I seldom think of my exit… When it comes it will come… I think as you sound very active in all you do, Just keep enjoying each and every moment you have with your Lovely Jeanie… Sending you both some hugs from England xx ❤

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    1. Thank you, Sue. I think those ten years difference between us make all the difference. For I cannot recall being so preoccupied with the end of my life in those days. But thank you, nonetheless, and your hugs are received and Oregon hugs sent in reply!

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      1. Oh Sue, I cannot imagine being 90, I am troubled by me becoming 80 in November. This old age lark especially the degradation of my memory is rough. But it is better than the alternative! 😊

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      2. Yes as my hubby said only today, as he was digging and I was weeding and hoeing in our Allotments… No one prepares you for the frustration of getting older, when your mind tells you you can, and your body will just not obey 🙂 xxx We are much better off than some.. That is how I look at things Paul… SO. I am grateful for all that I am and have… Much love to you and Jeanie xx ❤

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      3. Thank you for your love for me and Jeannie and that love is returned to you and your husband. xxxx🙂. I have just come in for lunch after being outside having a large bonfire, and I can’t imagine not being able do such things around the property. Your hubby is quite right; no one prepares you for getting old, as much as I try and plan for it. xxxxxx

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