The power of a hug!

Happy Birthday to grandson Morten who is five today!

Indirectly there is a connection between my sub-title, above, and today’s post about squeezing cute creatures. For Morten will already have enjoyed many hugs and, hopefully, will grow up feeling very comfortable at giving and receiving hugs.

Thankfully, Jean is a great hugger and has opened my eyes to the power of giving in to a hug. Not suprising when one thinks of Jean’s years of hugging dogs way before she and I met back in 2007.

Dear old Pharaoh, as he has aged, (he will be 13 this coming June) clearly enjoys more hugs than when he was a more active, fitter German Shepherd and always on the go.

When The Daily Courier, our local newspaper, came to the house last December Timothy Bullard, the paper’s photographer, took the following photograph of Pharaoh and me having a ‘love in’.

TIMOTHY BULLARD/Daily CourierPaul Handover with Pharaoh, a 12year-old German Shepard that he uses on the cover of his new book about man's best friend.
TIMOTHY BULLARD/Daily Courier – Paul Handover with Pharaoh, a 12year-old German Shepard that he uses on the cover of his new book about man’s best friend.

So this recent article from the Care2 website seems an appropriate follow-on to my introductory remarks.


Why Do We Feel the Need to Squeeze Cute Things?

1376993.largeBy: Rebecca Bauman March 8, 2016 –About Rebecca

If any of the collected photographs you see here cause you to emit high-pitched noises or ache to cradle the pictured animal tight in your arms, you might be experiencing a bout of “cute aggression.”

The phrase refers to a phenomenon during which we catch sight of a living thing deemed “cute,” usually a baby or an animal or — double-whammy — a baby animal, and feel an overwhelming desire to play with the subject’s features; a compulsion to tickle its feet; the need to tease its rumples or bulges of fat; the want to bury our faces into its belly.

fluffy mouse ball
fluffy mouse ball

Granted, not all voiceless lifeforms enjoy being tugged at or played with in an intrusive manner, which is why this behavior is referred to, in part, as “aggressive.” While we might mean absolutely no harm to the creature we long to hold and hug, our near-hyperactive responses to its presence often seem beyond our control, what some have called the “squee” effect.

Yale researchers studied this “dimorphous expression” — the need to manhandle living creatures for which we feel only positive emotions — in 2014. Part of the experimental regimen involved asking some participants to pop bubble wrap while viewing images of “cute baby animals;” others did the same while looking at images of adult species. The results: Those who viewed the infants popped more bubbles by far.

baby maine coon cat feeling
baby maine coon cat feeling

One of the researchers, psychologist Oriana Aragón, said that participants would have likely squeezed whatever they had in their hands or arms while viewing images of the “cute” animals, be it a purse or a pillow. Had something alive, however, actually been in those arms, the strength with which the participants freed their fuzzy feelings might have been worrisome to the researchers.

But Aragón says that strong human emotions are often balanced by “an expression of what one would think is an opposing feeling.” This is similar to what happens when we cry while angry or laugh while nervous. Our actual expressions “scramble and temper” whatever feeling got us into such a tizzy in the first place, helping to restore our emotional equilibrium, “tamping down or venting” feelings that cause us to become too excited.

Funny portrait of curious baby owl
Funny portrait of curious baby owl

While wanting to squish what could be one’s own offspring might seem an evolutionary misfire, a 2012 study in the journal PLOS ONE indicates that cuteness creates a powerful “approach motivation,” the very thing that drives us to scoop up puppies and kittens in adoption kennels and squeeze them close to our chests and nuzzle them against our faces. It seems the need to be touchy-feely toward cuteness provokes precisely the kind of nurturing that keeps helpless creatures alive.

As for animals, those worthy of this treatment, appealing to us as “cute,” mimic physical characteristics of human babies — “a large head; rounded, soft, and elastic features; big eyes relative to the face; protruding cheeks and forehead; and fuzziness.” The same, in fact, seems to be true for Great Apes, as has been documented with Koko the gorilla and an Internet celebrity orangutan shown interacting with tiger cubs, though the scene remains controversial.

cutepic4And so it seems the power of cuteness is made all the more apparent when humans (or elevated primates) respond to a rabbit or a duckling the way they might respond to their own kin. Our desire to squeeze is so powerful, in fact, that it “spills over” into interactions with other species. Thus, we have Web sites like Cute Overload that exist only for the compelling pull to exercise that need to feed our “cute aggression,” be the temptation a pleasure or a pain.

Demonstrating that cuteness can come in all sizes, let me close today’s post with this photograph.
Ben and Jeannie having a quiet one-to-one moment.

Don’t go too long without giving or receiving a hug!

12 thoughts on “The power of a hug!

  1. I will be sure to take that advice Paul.. ((Hugs)) to both you and Jean.. 🙂 and 5 yrs old.. oh my how time is flying.. I know our grandchildren were born around the same year.. My own granddaughter turned 5 the Beginning of December.. 🙂 so similar in ages..
    Loved the post about hugs and cuteness 🙂 Pharaoh is just lovely.. and why not with all those Hugs 🙂
    Have a Huggy week both of you..


  2. Love the pics! Miss having a horse or two around 😔 We live in the land of hugging, so I am one of the lucky ones who doesn’t have to go long without a hug. Well, and then there’s my husband. Still, we hug our dogs many times each day because really, who wouldn’t? Happy Birthday to your sweet grandson! 😍


  3. It’s odd but in some cultures folks hug each other a lot. Others never hug another person. I’m not a hugging person but I do love to pet my dogs and cats. I generally have at least 4 cats and my little blind dog sleeping on my bed. I love looking at my animals. They are my entertainment. (I do hug my two grown children). 🙂


    1. Jean is a natural hugger and has brought that aspect of me from out of the shadows where it had lain for years. Of course, when it comes to hugging dogs, cats (and horses) then we are both up to it very frequently during the day and night. Of the six dogs that sleep in the bedroom with us, the other three live in our kitchen area, three are regular sharers of our bed! You, Jean and me clearly share some very special relationships with our animals.

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