This is the second Guest post from AJ Easton, a 13-year-old girl from North Carolina, USA. AJ first wrote about Learning from Horses on January 17th this year. This is a more reflective essay that would have been a credit to someone with many, many more years.
Trust is a complicated thing…
You have to learn to trust, but it is not something that can be taught in schools. You also have to earn trust, by keeping secrets and not spreading rumors.
With the people you trust, you do things you wouldn’t do with other people . Your true self comes out with the people you trust. You don’t worry about being judged; you don’t worry about people disliking you for who you are.
But, in our modern-day world, it seems as if everyone judges.
People seem to hate for reasons as stupid as one’s appearance. People don’t trust people anymore because it seems that we are constantly warned to avoid strangers because they might hurt you, murder you, or completely mess up your life in some way, shape, or form.
And in school, if you trust someone enough to tell them a secret, they don’t keep it. And then, in your point of view, the world has ended.
All because of some secret that got out about who you like, or what you did with the person you were dating, or something else that, in the end, isn’t all that important.
Then everyone will judge you based on that rumor until you leave the school or graduate. They do this to make themselves feel “cool” and “important.” And you learn not to trust.
Social status has become such a big factor in everything we do these days. Everyone feels as though they have to be highly ranked socially to mean anything to the world.
But, truly, all you have to do is love what you do and respect yourself, to follow your dream and be determined. We should make decisions that help us move forward, not dwelling on the past. Every second is different; everything is unique. Nothing is the same. Not a single person, or tree, or moment. Each moment represents a new opportunity.
Don’t have regrets. What has happened has already happened and you can’t change it. Time travel is fictitious, not a reality. You can’t rewind your life to change what you have already done. There is a reason behind everything: remember this when you are having doubts about what you have done. Learn from your past but don’t let it eat at you.
Live your own life. And learn to trust yourself, and those who love you.
By AJ Easton